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Written by Wraith
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Friday, 23 May 2008 00:00 |
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Welcome to the Chosen Babies site. We are adoptees from every walk of life, on every step of the journey. All adoptees are invited to join us to talk, listen, rant, support, rave, comfort, scream, cry, whatever you need.
This is a site hopefully promoting solutions to our "issues" of adoption, search, reunion, etc. Adoptees are the only members of the triad that did not have any choice or control in the decision making process of their adoption whatsoever. We get empowered by talking with other adoptees about our experiences, in searching, in being courageous just to talk about the secrets. Please pardon our remodeling. We are currently changing the web site to provide more up to date information resources. If you are looking to join the Google discussion group, please click the link below to sign up. If you wish to submit an article for review and possible posting to this site, please create an account and then look for the "Submit and Article" link on the lower left hand side under the User menu. |
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Last Updated ( Thursday, 05 June 2008 22:34 )
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Written by Trish Lay
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Wednesday, 28 May 2008 15:47 |
When I was three years old, my adoptive mother was holding me as we stood in line at the grocery store. A gentleman in front of us turned and said what a pretty little girl I was…I then replied with, “no I’m not…I’m adopted.”
Being adopted weighed on my shoulders for decades. Rejection and Abandonment coursed through my veins. My adopted father rejected me…and the words “if you don’t behave yourself, we’ll take you back and get another baby...” haunted my core being.
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Last Updated ( Wednesday, 28 May 2008 20:35 )
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Recommendations for Natural/Birth/First/Blood Parents |
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Written by Wraith
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Friday, 23 May 2008 19:29 |
- Be patient and don't back away.
- Try to indulgle our curosity as things that people who are not adopted take for granted is really opening a whole new world for us and we need to be able to assumulate it into our current lives
- Own up to your truth as well as your child's truth
- Be compassionate to us. We may have had a great life or a bad one. You may have relinquished us out of necessity or coercion but this is a big thing for us.
- Understand we aren't all gold diggers or murderers or stalkers. We want to find a part of ourselves we have never known, to see a face that looks like ours.
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Last Updated ( Friday, 23 May 2008 19:42 )
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Lifelong Impact of Adoption |
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Written by Wraith
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Monday, 26 May 2008 06:41 |
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9/20/08 Lifelong Impact of Adoption @Santa Monica College, Airport Campus, 3171 S. Bundy Dr., Room #228, Los Angeles CA 90066 http://www.marlourussellphd.com/ click on Events
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Recommendations for Adoptive Parents |
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Written by Wraith
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Friday, 23 May 2008 18:22 |
This list was compiled from the recommendations and comments of Adoptees. Please read it
- Educate yourself, read every book you can find on adoptees and on being an adoptive parent. (If you need any recommendations, ask me)
- Decide now, if you are doing this for a child, or for yourself. (Is it about image or love? Is it about your own needs, to be a parent, to be needed, to fit in society?)
- Mourn what you may not have. (As in blood children of their own.)
- Never say, “We love you as our own.” The adoptee will be your child and that’s a mixed message if there ever was one.
- Don’t overdo the “you are so special/lucky” thing. They aren’t going to feel that, so actions will speak louder than words.
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Last Updated ( Saturday, 24 May 2008 21:20 )
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